What to Do When Your Ex-Girlfriend Falls in Love with Someone Else
You just found out that your girlfriend has started seeing some other guy? Maybe you were checking out her profile on a social media site or you heard it through the grapevine. Either way, you feel like someone has sucker-punched you and you can feel the blood draining from your face. Your head starts spinning and you just can’t believe it. You can’t stop the thoughts of your girlfriend with another guy no matter how hard you try. She is the love of your life and you were hoping to get back together but now you’re simply devastated. What should you do now?
The flood of emotions that invade your body are overwhelming. You feel like you’re outside of your body as it all sinks in and you wish that you could be very far from this moment in time. You want to rip your heart from your chest and your initial reaction is that you wish that you had never met her. Your feelings send you spinning and you wonder if it’s ever going to stop. Your dream of winning her back has been stolen from you and you have no idea of what to do right now.
The good news is that it gets better from here on out. This is probably the worst you’re going to feel. This might not be much of a consolation but do your best to remain calm and try not to act on any thoughts that you might be having at the moment. If you aren’t alone, simply understand that you need to get through this day and take some time for yourself to process all of this and get your head screwed back on. The best thing that you can do right now is to try not to think about it and know that at the end of this day things are going to be better.
When the opportunity arises and you have plenty of time to work through everything that is inside of you, let it out. Make sure you have plenty of time and some privacy just in case you feel the need to yell or scream. Get it all out and then see how you feel. Do you want to forget about her and erase her from your mind or is there still a part of you that loves her and wants to get her back? The choice is up to you and don’t think that just because she is seeing some guy that you can’t win her heart back. If you want her to fall in love with you again and that is what will make your life complete then let’s do that. There are going to be people who will tell you that you’re wasting your time but regretting not putting all of your effort and time into what might be one of the greatest relationships in you ever have might come back to haunt you. For you, moving on just isn’t happening right now.
It might take longer than you might like to win her back but then again, if she came back to you in an hour that might be more time than you might like, correct? But if you truly love her and you want to be with her then you will stay the course whether that means working at this for a month or three months or a year. What is important is that she falls in love with you again and decides on her own that you are the one that she wants to spend the rest of her life with. Are you ready to do what is necessary to have the life of your dreams with the woman you love?
Time is your friend and if you are patient and start playing your cards right, not only will she dump this guy that she has started spending time with but she will start chasing you and fall in love with you in a way that you probably can’t imagine right now. It is all up to you. You can fall apart and waste several days, weeks or months wallowing in self-pity or you can start doing the things that will make her remember how great it was to be with you. The sooner you get yourself back together and stop doing the things that are going to push her away like calling her, begging, and pleading for a second chance and asking to talk to her, the sooner you’re actually going to get her away from that guy that she’s dating now. That’s the honest truth.